From a Cop: How To Handle Cops


I thought I’d share this little tid-bit.    There is a new documentary out, available from called “10 Rules for Dealing with Police.”

The film provides practical tips for getting through an encounter with law enforcement.    As the article points out, with the advent of things like YouTube and cell-phone-based video cameras,   police-misconduct is being pulled out of the dark corners of society and thrust into the light.

We have a long way to go with police accountability.   However we also have a lot to learn on how to protect our rights in those situations we find ourselves confronted by police.

It can be a bit confusing, just what police can and can not do.    They’re trained in a variety of techniques designed to get you to waive your rights in the name of compliance with their requests.    That is, they’re trained in how to bully you so they can get an easy arrest… even if you didn’t do anything illegal in the first place.

The site has some other useful resources on it as well.   While procedures and laws do vary from state-to-state, provides answers applicable in all 50 of them.


Just a reminder, 30 days from today, cell phone numbers are going to be
released to telemarketing companies and you will start to receive sales calls.  
YOU WILL BE CHARGED FOR THESE CALLS…   (how jacked up is that!)

To prevent this, call the following number from your cell phone:  888-382-1222.   This is the National DO NOT CALL list.  It will only take a
minute of your time.  It blocks your number for five (5) years.

100 books you should buy…

why? cause they’re the most frequently challenged… and might one day be banned out right.

Now I’ve read some of these and don’t get the fuss. A Wrinkle in Time, Bridge to Terabithia (ha! now i know how to spell it… i miss this book)

Seriously though, i now want an entire bookshelf with these things on it:

  1. Scary Stories
    (Series) by Alvin Schwartz

  2. Daddy’s
    Roommate by Michael Willhoite

  3. I Know Why the
    Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

  4. The Chocolate
    War by Robert Cormier

  5. The Adventures
    of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain

  6. Of Mice and Men
    by John Steinbeck

  7. Harry Potter
    (Series) by J.K. Rowling

  8. Forever by Judy

  9. Bridge to
    Terabithia by Katherine Paterson

  10. Alice (Series)
    by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor

  11. Heather Has Two
    Mommies by Leslea Newman

  12. My Brother Sam
    is Dead by James Lincoln Collier and Christopher Collier

  13. The Catcher in
    the Rye by J.D. Salinger

  14. The Giver by
    Lois Lowry

  15. It’s Perfectly
    Normal by Robie Harris

  16. Goosebumps
    (Series) by R.L. Stine

  17. A Day No Pigs
    Would Die by Robert Newton Peck

  18. The Color
    Purple by Alice Walker

  19. Sex by

  20. Earth’s
    Children (Series) by Jean M. Auel

  21. The Great Gilly
    Hopkins by Katherine Paterson

  22. A Wrinkle in
    Time by Madeleine L’Engle

  23. Go Ask Alice by

  24. Fallen Angels
    by Walter Dean Myers

  25. In the Night
    Kitchen by Maurice Sendak

  26. The Stupids
    (Series) by Harry Allard

  27. The Witches by
    Roald Dahl

  28. The New Joy of
    Gay Sex by Charles Silverstein

  29. Anastasia
    Krupnik (Series) by Lois Lowry

  30. The Goats by
    Brock Cole

  31. Kaffir Boy by
    Mark Mathabane

  32. Blubber by Judy

  33. Killing Mr.
    Griffin by Lois Duncan

  34. Halloween ABC
    by Eve Merriam

  35. We All Fall
    Down by Robert Cormier

  36. Final Exit by
    Derek Humphry

  37. The Handmaid’s
    Tale by Margaret Atwood

  38. Julie of the
    Wolves by Jean Craighead George

  39. The Bluest Eye
    by Toni Morrison

  40. What’s
    Happening to my Body? Book for Girls: A Growing-Up Guide for Parents &
    Daughters by Lynda Madaras

  41. To Kill a
    Mockingbird by Harper Lee

  42. Beloved by Toni

  43. The Outsiders
    by S.E. Hinton

  44. The Pigman by
    Paul Zindel

  45. Bumps in the
    Night by Harry Allard

  46. Deenie by Judy

  47. Flowers for
    Algernon by Daniel Keyes

  48. Annie on my
    Mind by Nancy Garden

  49. The Boy Who
    Lost His Face by Louis Sachar

  50. Cross Your
    Fingers, Spit in Your Hat by Alvin Schwartz

  51. A Light in the
    Attic by Shel Silverstein

  52. Brave New World
    by Aldous Huxley

  53. Sleeping Beauty
    Trilogy by A.N. Roquelaure (Anne Rice)

  54. Asking About
    Sex and Growing Up by Joanna Cole

  55. Cujo by Stephen

  56. James and the
    Giant Peach by Roald Dahl

  57. The Anarchist
    Cookbook by William Powell

  58. Boys and Sex by
    Wardell Pomeroy

  59. Ordinary People
    by Judith Guest

  60. American Psycho
    by Bret Easton Ellis

  61. What’s
    Happening to my Body? Book for Boys: A Growing-Up Guide for Parents & Sons
    by Lynda Madaras

  62. Are You There,
    God? It’s Me, Margaret by Judy Blume

  63. Crazy Lady by
    Jane Conly

  64. Athletic Shorts
    by Chris Crutcher

  65. Fade by Robert

  66. Guess What? by
    Mem Fox

  67. The House of
    Spirits by Isabel Allende

  68. The Face on the
    Milk Carton by Caroline Cooney

  69. Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut
  70. Lord of the
    Flies by William Golding

  71. Native Son by
    Richard Wright

  72. Women on Top:
    How Real Life Has Changed Women’s Fantasies by Nancy Friday

  73. Curses, Hexes
    and Spells by Daniel Cohen

  74. Jack by A.M.

  75. Bless Me,
    Ultima by Rudolfo A. Anaya

  76. Where Did I
    Come From? by Peter Mayle

  77. Carrie by
    Stephen King

  78. Tiger Eyes by
    Judy Blume

  79. On My Honor by
    Marion Dane Bauer

  80. Arizona Kid by
    Ron Koertge

  81. Family Secrets
    by Norma Klein

  82. Mommy Laid An
    Egg by Babette Cole

  83. The Dead Zone
    by Stephen King

  84. The Adventures
    of Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain

  85. Song of Solomon
    by Toni Morrison

  86. Always Running
    by Luis Rodriguez

  87. Private Parts
    by Howard Stern

  88. Where’s Waldo?
    by Martin Hanford

  89. Summer of My
    German Soldier by Bette Greene

  90. Little Black
    Sambo by Helen Bannerman

  91. Pillars of the
    Earth by Ken Follett

  92. Running Loose
    by Chris Crutcher

  93. Sex Education
    by Jenny Davis

  94. The Drowning of
    Stephen Jones by Bette Greene

  95. Girls and Sex
    by Wardell Pomeroy

  96. How to Eat
    Fried Worms by Thomas Rockwell

  97. View from the
    Cherry Tree by Willo Davis Roberts

  98. The Headless
    Cupid by Zilpha Keatley Snyder

  99. The Terrorist
    by Caroline Cooney

  100. Jump Ship to
    Freedom by James Lincoln Collier and Christopher Collier

Finally some real numbers to go by – Top vs Bottom and HIV

So its long been burning in my mind just how risky it is having unprotected anal intercourse when I’m the top, specifically in regards to HIV transmission.

Finally, I found some actual numbers.

So here it is:

If you’re the bottom and your top is HIV+ than you have a 1 in 50 chance of contracting HIV.
If your’e the top and your bottom is HIV+ than you have a 1 in 500 chance of transmission. Thats only about 10x safer for the top than the bottom if the partner carries the virus. Not particulary better odds if you ask me, so always use that condom. Make sure you really trust that the guy is telling you the truth before you decide to bareback it.

Ignorance is never an excuse. ;P



In reading some comments about that article, it still appears to have some debate. The CDC offers some actual precentages on their website and this information is apparently current as of January 2005 (remember this is the odds of contracting HIV from various sexual activities):

Table 1 in that report says odds of Anal bottom: 50 in 10,000 (i.e. 1 in 200 or 0.5%);
Anal top: 6.5 in 10,000 (1 in 1538 or .065%);
sucking (giving a blowjob): 1 in 10,000 (or 0.01%) ;
getting a blowjob: 1 in 20,000 (0.005%)

Odds of being struck by lightning in the US: 1 in 600,000

So you can see that nothing is 100% safe but certain activities are pretty low-risk. Everyone needs to make informed decisions about just how much risk they want to accept. Remember, that decision is for you to make, not your partner. Its your life, so keep control of it.

UPDATE #2 – 05/30/05

Another article on HIV I found of interest: